Mum is outraged after she’s invited to a birthday party but asked to PAY £20 to attend… so who’s in the right?
The mum asked Mumsnet users what they thought of the matter - and many were keen to wade into the debate
A MUM has sparked a debate online after she was invited to a 40th birthday party and asked to PAY to attend.
The outraged mum took to parenting forum Mumsnet to vent her frustration about the situation – and many users were quick to delve into the discussion.
The user was quick to say that she was very fond of the person who had sent the invite but wanted other’s opinions on the matter.
She wrote: “AIBU [am I being unreasonable] to think that you don’t charge people to attend a party that you have invited them to?
“We’ve been sent an email party invitation from friends that goes something like this (details changed to protect the innocent!)
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“Katie and Rob would like to invite you to their joint 40th.
“The price is £20 a person and there will be a cash bar.
“Please RSVP and transfer money by 15th May as we need to pay in advance. Bank details are below. Hope you can make it!”
The mum added that the location of the party was nice, usually there was no venue charge – leading her to consider that those inviting her were getting “a £1k party and asking others to pay for it!”
She asked Mumsnet users if charging guests to come to a party was “now a thing”, adding: “I always thought that if you invited guests to a party then you provided food and at least some drink but that it was then OK to ask guests to buy/bring additional drinks…
“I guess if we had been asked if we wanted to join them for dinner in a restaurant I would expect to pay so perhaps I am [being unreasonable].”
Mumsnet users were quick to wade in, with many agreeing with the mum that it wasn’t the norm.
One wrote: “Yanbu [you are not being unreasonable] It is beyond crass.”
Someone else said: “Dreadful. Who does this?!”
Another added: “No way is this a thing. I'd not go on principle to be honest as I think it's awful and rude.”
Some were more outraged than others and some had experienced similar themselves.
One irate user wrote: “OMG my RSVP would say f*** you on it and end of friendship.
“I was once invited to a wedding by someone I hadn't seen for 10 years and was really puzzled as to why as we had never been at all close.
"Then got the invite with a note to say no presents please as we have everything but please send a contribution of £100.
“That was a f*** you RSVP too.”
On the other hand, some were more understanding of the host’s request.
One such user said: “It's not any different from sending a note round to your friends asking if they'd like to come out for a meal to celebrate your birthday.”
What do you think?
Earlier this week, another Mumsnet user revealed that she’s just caught her husband having an affair with his best mate’s WIFE.